Lately, I have been emailing my clients with chapter summaries from a great book called, The Willpower Instinct.
Each chapter contains a set of challenges meant to help increase your willpower.
There is one in particular I would like to share with you:
- Forgiveness when you fail. Take a more compassionate perspective on your setbacks to avoid the guilt that leads to giving in again.
Some researchers conducted an experiment where the participants were split into two groups. Both groups were told they would be participating in two separate studies: One on the effect of food on mood, and a taste test of several different candies.
One group was given a special message designed to relieve guilt, and the other was not.
The results of the experiment showed that the group given the message of self-forgiveness indulged 60% less in the eat-what-you-want candy tasting. Proof that getting rid of guilt actually increases your willpower, when common sense would say the opposite is true!
We tend to believe that being hard on ourselves is the best way to elicit the willpower needed to make positive choices, when in reality if we practice forgiveness we are less likely to feel bad and then decide to give in even more because “what’s the point, I already failed?”
We all “fall off the wagon” when it comes to our health and wellness. The important thing is to get back on as soon as possible, thereby keeping whatever positive gains we have already made, and quickly erasing any setback from our temporary and forgiveable slip!
If you are interested in learning more, I highly recommend you get The Willpower Instinct.
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